Widowing Empty Nests

You’re So Strong!

October 26, 2020 No Comments

photo credit Sarah Treanor www.streanor.com 6th August 2018 I fancy a series of blogposts on platitudes and statements that really are not compliments, not helpful to a grieving person.  Or at least to me.  There are so many phrases that I hear that make me want to snarl.  And sometimes I bite. Whether or not […]

Read More

What is it About Triggers?

October 26, 2020 1 Comment

24 July 2018 I know that none of us ever, for one single micro-moment forgets that our one, our ones, our person, our people are gone… We – I – remember all the time.  I know all the time.  Even as I am always shocked. Put that parallel universe to one side for a moment… […]

Read More

Making Memories

October 26, 2020 No Comments

Today, 16 July 2018, is a year since we had Mike’s Celebration of Life – on 16th July 2017.  Yesterday, Sunday 15th, felt more like the anniversary itself, as last year, 16th July was a Sunday.  So much of that day remains etched in my brain, memories wired into neural pathways, or something like that.  […]

Read More

The End of an Era

October 26, 2020 2 Comments

This afternoon we said goodbye to Iryna from the Czech Republic.  Iryna has been our au pair for most of the past school year.  With her departure closes an enormously important and very long chapter in our family’s life:  that of having live-in au pairs.  We have had au pairs for 16 years!  Ever since […]

Read More

The Body Remembers

October 26, 2020 No Comments

On Sunday I was aware to the day, hour and minute when Mike died 15 months prior. Today I remember my little brother Edward who died 30 months ago today – 10 Jan 2016. Same day as David Bowie. My mind does weird things with dates. But really it’s my body that knows. I don’t […]

Read More

Who am I and Why am I here?

October 26, 2020 1 Comment

Welcome to my blog – Widowing Empty Nests.  A space for me, Emma, to put some of the writing I do about my new life, a life I didn’t expect, didn’t want, but is. In the space of less than a year, I went from being married to the man I had known and loved […]

Read More

Four Funerals and Two Weddings

October 26, 2020 No Comments

It doesn’t have quite the same ring, does it?  I met a man recently.  Let’s call him Fred.  He’s 51 (like me), he lost the love of his life (like me), he has 3 teenage kids (like me), who are all over the map, metaphorically (like me) and though not physically (unlike me but hey, […]

Read More

2018. Where my life goes on, as do others’ lives. New lives come to be, and yet other lives end

October 26, 2020 No Comments

1st January 2018 – aka The first day of a new year in my lifetime with Mike not in it I have been training people not to express frivolous platitudes such as, “2018 will be better than 2017”.  I hate receiving memes and feel-good quotes and pictures of clocks wiping out 2017 with its “difficult” […]

Read More

Razor Shells – Warning to Bathers: Take Care of Your Own Feet

October 26, 2020 No Comments

16th September 2017 When I was a young child, I spent three years living in Swansea in South Wales.  My mum, who had five kids all in single digits at the time, and whose energy was probably solely focused on our collective sanity, took us to a beach every single day – come rain or […]

Read More

Firsts

October 26, 2020 No Comments

14th May 2017 I have been noticing “Firsts”.  First times I do something since Mike died, or even since Mike was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer – still only a little over 6 months ago.  Things that were routine, weekly, sometimes even daily.  I feel like I have noticed them all.  Some feel massively important and […]

Read More