Widowing Empty Nests

Facing Death, Embracing Life

October 26, 2020 1 Comment

All photos my own, taken yesterday in the Drôme, France 25 October 2020 My beautiful friend Joan, one of the very very very few people who has (a) consistently been present, (b) more or less accessible, and (c) capable of sitting with and exploring whatever colour and shade of emotional energy has come up for […]

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My Life is Not Your Excavation Site

October 26, 2020 4 Comments

Main picture by Sabina Music Rich on Unsplash 18 October 2020 I had an experience yesterday which was wholly disagreeable in the moment, and of which similar versions have happened various times these past months and years. The difference was that I finally felt able to handle the situation calmly, directly, and with more resourcefulness […]

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42 Moons

October 26, 2020 No Comments

Featured Image by Mark Tegethoff on Unsplash 12th October 2020 I have long had an uncanny ability to work out time zones. What time is it right now in Sydney where they are 8 hours ahead? Or in Minneapolis which is 7 hours behind? Or if I want a call with someone in New York […]

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I want MIKE!

October 26, 2020 3 Comments

5th October 2020 Main photo by Jane del Pozo, Dec 2016, soon after Mike’s diagnosis I am just back from a brave week of open water swimming in the waters of the La Maddalena Archipelago, off the north-east coast of Sardinia. Brave because it’s the end of summer – indeed early autumn (we had three […]

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Long Live Live Music

October 26, 2020 No Comments

Main Photo by Clem Onojeghuo on Unsplash and others from GECA website and Guildhall Gold Medal Concert 2020 28 September 2020 One of the phrases that I hear, and that I use myself, in my still new, post-loss world, is “this life of after”. It’s a phrase that would do well to be used too […]

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From “What’s Wrong?” to “What’s Possible?”

October 26, 2020 No Comments

Main Image by Leonardo Santamaria for NPR 22 September 2020 Confession: I have no idea where this piece of writing will go. Another confession: That happens quite often with these blogposts, though for sure much of my writing comes from a specific incident that has stood out during my week. Other times I latch onto […]

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Sliced and Diced and Cored

October 26, 2020 1 Comment

14th September 2020 Featured Photo by Nikolai Chernichenko on Unsplash I have written quite a bit about my challenging relationship with Death Admin. That I despise it. That it’s painful. That it takes too much time and energy and money. That it is prone to make me cry bitter, angry and hurting tears. And that […]

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Life, After

October 26, 2020 No Comments

Images from various places on the internet 7th September 2020 Sometime after Mike died – perhaps a matter of months – Megan came to me and said, “Muuuuum – my Netflix account isn’t working”. It’s possible that I said, “What’s Netflix?”, but I don’t think I was living under a rock to quite that degree. […]

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Dying to Live or Living to Die?

October 26, 2020 No Comments

Photo by Juliana Malta on Unsplash 30 August 2020 I have just written this for my 53rd piece of weekly writing for Soaring Spirits International, which means I have been writing on their site for a year. My gentlest year in five years. I wanted so much to be able to write that there had […]

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Love Threading Through My Week

October 26, 2020 No Comments

24 August 2020 Today’s – no – this week’s – topic is Love. As I sit and reflect on what to write about, as with last week, there seem to be lots of different topics. All interesting at some level, but not “enough” to make a blog post out of. So my next question is, […]

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