Widowing Empty Nests

Validation Matters: Five Not Three

February 23, 2020 No Comments

16th February 2020 I have had a tough week. First, hearing difficult health news regarding someone I care about deeply. Then being the recipient of highly confrontational/aggressive behaviour from family friends that I cannot even begin to comprehend at this stage. Ending with the words, “do not contact us again”. I need an outlet for […]

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One Death or Four?

February 23, 2020 3 Comments

Photo by Jude Beck on Unsplash 12 February 2020 It’s about 3am and I can’t sleep. I slept from about 11.30pm to 2am and now I am awake. Last night I slept from about 9pm to 3am and then was awake till I got up for my Tuesday morning swim. I try to go back to sleep for […]

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Russian Mountains

February 23, 2020 1 Comment

10 February 2020 Photo by Pedro Velasco on Unsplash Last week, on Thursday 6th February, I was having “a good day”. I had been for a long swim early in the morning and felt good in the water. I had a calm-ish day planned in the beautiful office space I have on Thursdays – just a few calls […]

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Life After Death Through Three Lenses of Change

February 23, 2020 1 Comment

Photo by Simeon Muller on Unsplash 3 February 2020 In my recent experience learning about Human Systems Dynamics, one of the frameworks I was introduced to was called “Three Kinds of Change”. It posits that there are three types of change we face, and knowing what kind we are experiencing is important to helping us find appropriate ways […]

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A Good Week?

February 23, 2020 1 Comment

27 January 2020 It’s been a good week. By most objective and subjective measures, it’s been a good week. For me. And I realise it’s been a horrendous week and few days for anyone who is newly widowed, grieving, going through date landmines, dealing with death-admin. I am not a follower of Basketball, American or […]

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Sticky Issues

February 23, 2020 No Comments

Photo by Robert Thiemann on Unsplash 20 January 2020 When I was turning 20, (back in the last millennium, and indeed more than a decade before its end), a few people asked me, “what do you want for your 20th birthday?” I answered, “Twenty years between now and when I am 30”. I thought it was a very […]

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Too Many Deaths. Really. That’s Enough.

February 23, 2020 2 Comments

12 January 2020 I have just come back from what should have been two lovely days away with my Medjool. My new love. My number two. (Not Second Best. Just Number Two. Subtle but Important difference). Some of our time away was lovely – truly relaxing, soothing, stunningly beautiful, comforting, renewing, and more. And some […]

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997, 998, 999, 1000, 1001, 1002, 1003, et seq ad infinitum et ad nauseam

February 23, 2020 No Comments

3 January 2020 Today is Friday 3rd January 2020. 3/1/2020 Or 1/3/2020 if you’re somewhere in North America, but that looks plain wrong to me. And anyway, that would be my dad’s birthday, 1st March. Not my uncle’s birthday, 3rd January. Both healthy, sporty, fit 81-year old men. 82 now for my uncle. Today is […]

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Mixed Emotions

February 23, 2020 1 Comment

25 December 2019 I noticed that Kelley Lynn put up a couple of lovely questions on her Facebook page in the run-up to Christmas. It went along the lines of: Tell me, what/who are you missing? And if you’re joyful, then say more about that It’s Christmas morning, and I am sitting in bed. No […]

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Pizza Toppings

February 23, 2020 1 Comment

22 December 2019 At home I have a big bathroom. Built and decorated by Mike. So big that it has two basins, each with a mirror above it. “His ‘n’ Hers”. Two basins are not common in European bathrooms. Houses don’t usually have the space. In between the basins and the mirrors, stuck to the […]

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