Widowing Empty Nests

Crumpling Face Like No Other

May 9, 2021 1 Comment

Images of Geraldine Chaplin from “The Crown” taken by myself 14 March 2021 I continue to watch “The Crown”, at the rate of one or two episodes a week. I started in January and perhaps I will have finished all four series by the end of April if curfews would kindly stay in place. Every […]

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Lessons in Love – Part One

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Main image on Unsplash by Engin Akyurt 8 March 2021 I have a daily gratitude writing practice that started at the beginning of 2020. Megan had given me a gratitude diary for Christmas in which it was suggested you write five things that you had to look forward to that day, then one thing at […]

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Why her? Why him? Why now?

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Main image by Greg Rakozy on Unsplash 1st March 2021 Medjool has a precious childhood friend – let’s call him Yves – who is still very much a presence in his life today. To say that Yves is spiritually aware, spiritually curious, even spiritually provocative, would be an understatement. I am not privy to much […]

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Hard Beliefs to Swallow

May 9, 2021 3 Comments

Main image from me.me 23 February 2021 One of the myriad books that’s been on my list forever is Gary Zukav’s 1989 book “The Seat of the Soul”. It’s been recommended to me by many people over the years, not least Oprah and Maya Angelou, as well as my “Grief Therapist” Tom Zuba. It finally […]

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Sabre-Toothed Tigers on French Country Roads

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Random Sabre-Tooth Tiger Image off the Internet. Other photos my own. 14 February 2021 I am on a French TGV, leaving behind me my parents who live south of Perpignan. The train left the station about 25 minutes ago and I am already in the lagoon-rich part of South East France, pink flamingos on either […]

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Hello Wall

May 9, 2021 2 Comments

Shirley Valentine Images from various Internet sites 4th February 2021 One of my favourite ever films is Shirley Valentine. It came out in 1989 when I was 22 and had already been in relationship with Mike for two years. I remember feeling so sure that I would not while my life away, or stick around […]

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Terry, I wish I’d loved you while you were still alive

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2 February 2021 I like to claim that “I don’t do guilt”. It’s not that “I don’t do guilt at all”, it’s more that I try to catch any guilt quickly and figure out if the guilt is bringing anything of value. Mostly it’s not. Same same with regrets. I like to say “I don’t […]

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A Wave of Fresh Green Grief Amidst the Snowy Whiteness

May 9, 2021 1 Comment

All photos my own, 24 January 2021, above Darbella, French Jura 25 January 2021 Yesterday was a gloriously sunny day, brilliant and bright and fresh and sparkling after the recent snowfalls. Medjool and I had already decided that we would head up into the Jura for a cross-country ski. He knows the region better than […]

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Exercising Optimism in Griefland

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Photo by Marian Kroell on Unsplash 19 January 2021 I often feel very fortunate that my professional and personal lives, interests and development, are so inextricably linked. I cannot actually imagine it being any other way. I learned early on that in order for me to be able to do my professional work effectively, I […]

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Yes, I know David Bowie died five years ago

May 9, 2021 2 Comments

11 January 2021 Main picture taken in 1973, perhaps 1974, soon after our move to Brussels ….and so did my brother Edward. I also know that this is a blog site about widowing, and I am widowed. But when my husband Mike died in April 2017, I had recently lost both my youngest brother Edward […]

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