Widowing Empty Nests

Mourning and Evening Glories

January 20, 2022 1 Comment

Main image by Erda Estremera on Unsplash. Other photos our own (plus PhotoShop). 15 November 2021 A couple of weeks ago, on 3rd November, I felt moved to celebrate a different kind of anniversary. The three-year anniversary of my widbud group, the “Mourning Glories”, comprised of Charlotte, Gordon, Michelle, Pamela and me. We met in […]

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A Run of Good Luck?

January 20, 2022 3 Comments

Main image by Amy Reed on Unsplash 6 November 2021 I have been wanting to write something about numbers, number patterns, and time, for a while. And specifically that I couldn’t help but notice, some three or four weeks ago, that I hadn’t had another “significant loss” for a while. I feel blessed. No new, […]

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From Pandemic to Endemic

January 20, 2022 No Comments

30 October 2021 Photo by Gabriella Clare Marino on Unsplash I read a McKinsey article this morning called “Pandemic to Endemic: How the world needs to learn to live with COVID-19”. The article is basically about, erm, learning to live with COVID-19. That COVID-19 is something that is not going to go away. That it […]

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I Can Do Heavy

January 20, 2022 No Comments

Image by Stephen Mabbs on Unsplash 22 October 2021 Today I had a two-hour slot scheduled with a man called Simon Geoghegan, who, like me, is a participant in a learning programme. We are learning to facilitate Systemic Constellations work in organisations, led by the formidable Caroline Ward. Simon and I first met at a […]

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Gold Dust Moments

January 20, 2022 1 Comment

Main image by Christopher Campbell on Unsplash. All other photos my own from 16. & 17 October 2021, on the southern banks of Lac Léman/Lake Geneva 18 October 2021 I have written before about my daily (nightly) reflective practice of writing into some questions. Back in March this year, I wrote a piece about one […]

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Lots of Tears this Week

January 20, 2022 1 Comment

Main Photo by Vladimir Kramer on Unsplash 9 October 2021 I have cried a lot this week. Sometimes it’s just like that. Some weeks I cry more than other weeks. It might be hormonal. Let’s face it, I am 54, and apart from feeling “a little warm” most mornings as I sit in bed with […]

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Courage, Trust and Hope

January 20, 2022 3 Comments

All photos my own, taken in Montenegro 2017 and 2021Main photo, Julia spinning into the sea at Petrovac, August 2017 3 October 2021 I am just back from a week’s late summer holiday in Montenegro with Medjool. It should have been an “organised holiday”, with daily longish-distance swimming in the “fjords”, lakes, rivers and sea […]

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Community and Accountability

January 20, 2022 No Comments

25 September 2021 Main image by Hudson Hintze on Unsplash When I took up swimming again for the first time, when I was about 23, it was after an approximatively 10-year hiatus. Until the age of 13, swimming (in a pool) was one of the three main sports I did, along with ice-skating and orienteering. […]

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The willingness to be changed by another

January 20, 2022 1 Comment

Image by Eric Muhr on Unsplash 18 September 2021 (my mum’s 82nd birthday. And what would have been her twin, Janet’s, my aunt’s, 82nd birthday too) Many years ago, my brilliant childhood bestie, Nathalie, said of Influencing (in organisations), “To influence you must be willing to be influenced by the other”. I don’t remember what […]

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9/11 Memories, Appreciation and Honouring

January 20, 2022 No Comments

11 September 2021 Main photo by Jesper Blijdestein on Unsplash 9/11. Nine-Eleven trips off the tongue. It means September 11th 2001. Even to Brits, who would otherwise say 11th of September (and write 11/9), there’s no mistaking what 9/11 means. Anyone over a certain age remembers what they were doing on 11th September 2001. Remembers […]

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