Wrapping Loss in Love
October 22, 2025 3 CommentsPhoto by Kevin Fong 14 July 2020 I spend a lot of my time reading about death, dying, and grieving, participating in webinars and holding space sessions with grief experts, people who’ve developed wise perspective on what it is to love, to lose, and to continue living. Apart from two moments since Mike’s death, I […]
Read MorePost Mortem – a year on
October 22, 2025 1 CommentAll photos my own 6 July 2020 This past week we have been honouring and commemorating Julia. (And Mike. And Ed. And Don. Of course). Like we do every day. Of course. But particularly Julia this week. The first “deathiversary”. The first anniversary post mortem. I don’t really know why the one-year anniversary feels like […]
Read MoreRight Down to the Weather
October 22, 2025 3 CommentsMain Photo by Marc Wieland on Unsplash 28 June 2020 So there we have it.Here we are again.Time has rolled around. As it is wont to do.Dates might not have, but the sense, the weight of that Sunday night 52 weeks ago, most definitely has. A hot day in our part of the world with […]
Read MoreCommemorating Julia. Seriously? WTF?!?
October 22, 2025 1 Comment23 June 2020 I feel I honour Julia every day. In some way. Sometimes small ways. Sometimes big ways. What is honouring anyway? Remembering? Talking to her? Talking about her? Sitting quietly and remembering something specific? Nodding to her massive copper bowl of rose petals in the lounge? Forming a twisted, lop-sided smile at one […]
Read MoreIncongruities of a Summer’s Day
October 22, 2025 1 CommentPhoto of Montreux by Armand Khoury on Unsplash 22nd June 2020 Just like I always feel a twinge of glee on 21st December (we have reached the shortest and darkest 24-hour period in the Northern Hemisphere – phew and yippee!), I also feel a twinge of sadness on 21st June when we have reached the […]
Read MoreRewriting Friendship Contracts
October 22, 2025 2 Comments15 June 2020 Photo by Jude Beck on Unsplash I had one of those rollicking walloping moments of insight a few days ago after what had been months of sporadic back and forth Whatsapping with a lovely friend, (let’s call her Catherine), who I met decades ago at university. We were really close in those […]
Read MoreParallels
October 22, 2025 2 CommentsPhoto by Jonathan Pendleton on Unsplash 7th June 2020 Like just about everyone with a heart on the planet, I have been saddened, distraught and moved to tears many times these past couple of weeks as the upwelling of grief and anger in the US (and the UK, and France, to name just a couple of other places), […]
Read MoreDon’t Rush Me
October 22, 2025 1 CommentIt’s not just me – it’s you too 31 May 2020“One of the big things I talk about in the grief world is how other people want to rush grief. They want the old you back, they want things to go back to “normal,” they’ve grown impatient with the way grief lives in you. All […]
Read MoreEmpty
October 22, 2025 3 CommentsPhoto by Sarah Treanor (streanor.com) 23 May 2020 Empty. I am empty. I feel empty. Which one is it? Just empty. Running on Empty? No. Not even. A year ago I did a semi-marathon and it was at the end of one of the hardest weeks in my life (and I have had a shit […]
Read MoreNew Love in the Time of COVID-19
October 22, 2025 1 CommentMain picture courtesy of street artist Ruben Rojas, in Los Angeles 17 May 2020 How does a new relationship, even one that truly feels right, profound, rich, loving… how does it survive, how can it survive, in the time of COVID-19? How can Zoom sessions, WhatsApp calls and texts, photos, and even the occasional letter, […]
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