Navigating New Terrain
October 22, 2025 3 CommentsPhotos my own 31 May 2021 I just re-read last week’s post to see if I had mentioned “Orienteering” and saw that – oddly – I hadn’t. However it was a feature underlying that piece of writing. Orienteering is where I had been with my parents, in Leucate, when I came across “Ed’s Feather” on […]
Read MoreThe Smallest Of Gestures
October 22, 2025 3 CommentsPictures created by myself. Main picture, my Grief Mentor. 24 May 2021 This past week has been abominably hard. Violently hard. Or should I say, this past week has had some abominably and violently hard moments, minutes and hours in it. Yes. That’s closer. I once heard that Christopher Reeve (aka Superman) said, after his […]
Read MoreOn Life as Mayonnaise
October 22, 2025 2 CommentsMain image by Daniel Costa on Unsplash 17 May 2021 This isn’t a “deep” piece … just some in-the-moment noodlings, metaphors and wonderings. Sometimes people talk of “not being able to turn mayonnaise back into its component parts”, i.e., you can’t get your whole eggs back once you’ve beaten the hell out of them, mixed […]
Read MoreNon-Stop Dead
October 22, 2025 No CommentsPhoto by Jr Korpa on Unsplash 9 May 2021 In the weeks and months after Mike died, people often asked me if I dreamt of him. I barely did. He was “in my dreams” – a presence in them – but dead. I remember resenting that I knew all the time, every moment, day or […]
Read MoreRe-Re, Re-Be
October 22, 2025 1 CommentRe-enter, Re-emerge, Re-cover, Re-silient, Re-be, Re-re 1st May 2021 Today is a stay-in-bed-dayI am feeling weepyI am feeling bereftI am missing my old lifeI am missing my dead lovesI am missing my alive loves The dog and cat were with me for a while but even they got bored and left It’s all so iterative. […]
Read MoreSweet Grief
October 22, 2025 No CommentsMain photo by Marcus Ganahl on Unsplash 25 April 2021 I am reading and/or listening to two startlingly wonderful books at the moment. Both make me sob and cry; my throat constricts, my shoulders slump and shake. Reading can be so physical and emotional. The first book (that I am actually reading) is “Dear Life” […]
Read MoreAlchemising Impermanence
October 22, 2025 No CommentsPhoto by Simon Berger on Unsplash 19 April 2021 Sometime around the age of 5, children learn that things and people die. Of course, some very young kids learn this earlier, through the tragedy of a close human death in their immediate entourage – be it the death of a sibling, parent or grandparent. But […]
Read MoreDouble Trouble
October 22, 2025 1 CommentAll photos our own 13th April 2021 13th April. One of those dates that – I assume – will always be lodged in my mind, in my heart, in my body, in my soul. Today is 25 years to the day since Mike and I got married, on a cold, grey day in Grasmere, Cumbria. […]
Read MoreSome Softer Dates
October 22, 2025 No Comments5 April 2021 Main photo by Sarah Treanor on streanor.comAll other photos my own It’s been a good week. Surprisingly good, for the time of year. A slew of special events and treats. Lots of variety – much more than in recent COVID-times – including a flight and a visit to another country! What’s not […]
Read MoreMa partenaire est veuve : quels impacts sur notre relation ?
October 22, 2025 4 CommentsPublié le 4 avril 2021, écrit le 26 mars 2021 Crédit photo: Sarah Treanor www.streanor.com, amie chère et veuve elle aussi Bonjour. Mon prénom est Neil, alias « Medjool ». Depuis juin 2019, j’ai l’immense chance d’être entré dans la vie et le cœur d’Emma, qui tient ce blogpost. Emma a perdu son mari, Mike, voici 4 […]
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