Self-Care, Help and Comfort
April 24, 2024 1 Comment8th December 2019 I have been pondering comfort, self-care, and help – what each of them is, to me, and what makes one or other easier and/or more accessible than another. Here is where I am at. And no, I have done no Googling or other research into what each of them is. Just research […]
Read MoreIt’s About Time
April 24, 2024 1 Comment2nd December 2019 Yes. I know. I have a funny thing about time. And dates. I take time to reflect on time and what time is, or might be. Linear? Circular? Fluid? Fixed? Conceptual? Real? Polychronic? Monochronic? Measurable? Full of meaning and emotion? Or void of emotion and meaning? Time takes on such a different […]
Read MoreMourning Glories
April 24, 2024 No Comments25th November 2019 One of my favourite widbuds is Charlotte, who I met last year at the Soaring Spirits Camp Widow event in Toronto 2018. She is beautiful and strong and capable and clever and funny. And she’s grieving. And despite her grieving, she attended my daughter’s funeral, “just because she happened to be in […]
Read MoreI love you like I love Mike
April 24, 2024 3 Comments18 November 2019 A little over 6 months ago, at the end of April 2019, two months before my 15 year-old daughter Julia died by suicide, and 2 years after Mike my husband died, I met a man on a dating website. He’s called Medjool, after my favourite kind of dates. Big, chewy, tasty, sweet. […]
Read MoreFor the Love of Dog
April 24, 2024 4 Comments11th November 2019 After Mike died – indeed before he died, when he was ill – I know I set a clear intention to carry on living fully afterwards. In truth I never questioned whether or not I’d want to carry on living. For the last many decades, for as long as I can consciously […]
Read MoreMaudlin
April 24, 2024 1 Comment1st November 2019 One of the patterns I have noticed in friends’ responses to whatever I happen to post on social media is that, when I post some good news, “happy photos”, or an achievement, I get 3 or 4 times as many “likes”, comments, and whoopy doos, than if I post something hard, messy, […]
Read MoreIt’s Just a Piece of Metal
April 24, 2024 No Comments27th October 2019 One of my favourite Mike stories, dating from before I met him, was frequently regaled in family conversations. I am sure that over almost thirty years, the story popped up at least once a year. More often after the kids were born. It made it onto the “Stories of Mike” CD Mike […]
Read MoreRunning on Purpose_v2
April 24, 2024 No Comments21 October 2019 Today would be 32 years since my first date with Mike. This is the second time I have written a blogpost with the exact same title. Hence the _v2. The first was on my work website and was written on 7th June 2014. I had just completed a 36 km mountain trail […]
Read MoreRicochet
April 24, 2024 No Comments13th October 2019 Today is one of those exquisitely beautiful, bright autumn days. With temperatures that would feel “just right” on a mid-summer’s day, but with the added benefit of a gentle breeze to doubly kiss my bare skin as I sit now, in the garden, writing this piece. I have been out on a […]
Read MoreThe Shape of You in Me
April 24, 2024 No Comments10th October 2019 Megan Devine Writing Prompt inviting us to explore the theme of how I am different because you were part of my life. The invisible causes changes in the visibleThe visible gives evidence of the invisibleHistory influences the present and the futureYour presence in my life carries onWith me, within me, through meHow […]
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