Grief of Tsunamic Proportions
December 2, 2021 3 CommentsImage by David Cleverley on Unsplash 27 November 2021 I don’t know how to begin this piece. I don’t know what will be in the middle. And I don’t know how it will end. In truth, I usually don’t know the middle or end of a piece before I start writing. This will horrify any […]
Read MoreYou’re Allowed Fifteen Minutes
December 2, 2021 3 CommentsImage by Avesun 21 November 2021 About six weeks ago, on a Monday morning, I woke up crying and sobbing. I was having a beautiful and stunningly hard dream. It happens. Quite a lot. Whenever I dream of Julia. I dream of Julia much more often than I dream of Mike. Always have done. I […]
Read MoreMourning and Evening Glories
December 2, 2021 1 CommentMain image by Erda Estremera on Unsplash. Other photos our own (plus PhotoShop). 15 November 2021 A couple of weeks ago, on 3rd November, I felt moved to celebrate a different kind of anniversary. The three-year anniversary of my widbud group, the “Mourning Glories”, comprised of Charlotte, Gordon, Michelle, Pamela and me. We met in […]
Read MoreA Run of Good Luck?
December 2, 2021 3 CommentsMain image by Amy Reed on Unsplash 6 November 2021 I have been wanting to write something about numbers, number patterns, and time, for a while. And specifically that I couldn’t help but notice, some three or four weeks ago, that I hadn’t had another “significant loss” for a while. I feel blessed. No new, […]
Read MoreFrom Pandemic to Endemic
December 2, 2021 No Comments30 October 2021 Photo by Gabriella Clare Marino on Unsplash I read a McKinsey article this morning called “Pandemic to Endemic: How the world needs to learn to live with COVID-19”. The article is basically about, erm, learning to live with COVID-19. That COVID-19 is something that is not going to go away. That it […]
Read MoreI Can Do Heavy
December 2, 2021 No CommentsImage by Stephen Mabbs on Unsplash 22 October 2021 Today I had a two-hour slot scheduled with a man called Simon Geoghegan, who, like me, is a participant in a learning programme. We are learning to facilitate Systemic Constellations work in organisations, led by the formidable Caroline Ward. Simon and I first met at a […]
Read MoreGold Dust Moments
December 2, 2021 1 CommentMain image by Christopher Campbell on Unsplash. All other photos my own from 16. & 17 October 2021, on the southern banks of Lac Léman/Lake Geneva 18 October 2021 I have written before about my daily (nightly) reflective practice of writing into some questions. Back in March this year, I wrote a piece about one […]
Read MoreLots of Tears this Week
December 2, 2021 1 CommentMain Photo by Vladimir Kramer on Unsplash 9 October 2021 I have cried a lot this week. Sometimes it’s just like that. Some weeks I cry more than other weeks. It might be hormonal. Let’s face it, I am 54, and apart from feeling “a little warm” most mornings as I sit in bed with […]
Read MoreCourage, Trust and Hope
December 2, 2021 3 CommentsAll photos my own, taken in Montenegro 2017 and 2021Main photo, Julia spinning into the sea at Petrovac, August 2017 3 October 2021 I am just back from a week’s late summer holiday in Montenegro with Medjool. It should have been an “organised holiday”, with daily longish-distance swimming in the “fjords”, lakes, rivers and sea […]
Read MoreCommunity and Accountability
December 2, 2021 No Comments25 September 2021 Main image by Hudson Hintze on Unsplash When I took up swimming again for the first time, when I was about 23, it was after an approximatively 10-year hiatus. Until the age of 13, swimming (in a pool) was one of the three main sports I did, along with ice-skating and orienteering. […]
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