Widowing Empty Nests

Moments of Marginally More Looseness

April 26, 2024 No Comments

28 September 2019 Invitation from Megan Devine in the WYG course to look for the spaces where things can just be a little looser. “Find those tiny spaces where things loosen just a little. Because they are useful. And they are really important”. Late last night I listened to the soft belly audio that Megan […]

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My Bashed Up Heart

April 26, 2024 No Comments

26 September 2019 Megan Devine Writing Your Grief prompt asking us to consider the condition of our heart. What is the condition of my heart? My heart is a withered old thing. Deflated. Once strong and firm, now floppy, like a punctured balloon. My heart is reminiscent of a partially deflated rugby ball or football, […]

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Reflecting on the Experience of Writing

April 26, 2024 No Comments

26 November 2019 Megan Devine WYG prompt asking us to review the first 14 days of the course… and reflect on what we have learned, noticed, etc As some know, this is my “Round Three” of WYG. Round one I did within weeks of Mike’s death. It felt too soon. I was too bubbly, too […]

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Letter to Julia

April 26, 2024 No Comments

24 September 2019 Megan Devine prompt from Writing Your Grief: “Imagine writing a letter to the one you’ve lost: what would you show them in this new “home” town? Your world is entirely new, now. It’s not the same place it was before death entered your life and your home”. I beg to differ, Ms Devine. […]

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The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly

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23 September 2019 Megan Devine prompt inviting us to reflect on the number 13 (it being day 13 of the writing programme). I decided to be clever and think of 13 things I had learned. Then categorised them according to the little ditty. Thirteen things I have noticed since being widowed – the good, the […]

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Breathe in the Wreckage

April 26, 2024 1 Comment

22 September 2019 Megan Devine’s Writing Your Grief Prompt inviting us to be with the pain, the despair, the wreckage… asking what would it take for us to feel the pain and not run away from it What would it take for me to breathe in the wreckage? I am breathing in the wreckageI don’t […]

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Healing Balm

April 26, 2024 No Comments

21 September 2019 Another Megan Devine prompt with a piece of May Sarton’s writing, inviting us to write from whatever line caught our attention. I chose this line: “I suffer from these brief weekends, the tearing up of the roots of love, and from my own inability to behave better under the stress”. I have […]

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Weariness

April 26, 2024 No Comments

10th September 2019 Megan Devine Writing Your Grief Prompt: “Weariness” by Hannah Arendt. Where do you find yourself in this piece? Can you write from here, whether in her style or her tone? For today’s writing, copy Arendt’s opening lines: evening falling – a soft lamenting…and go from there. It’s the title of the poem, […]

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Language and Colour Could Never Begin to Describe You

April 26, 2024 No Comments

19 September 2019 Megan Devine’s Writing Your Grief prompt inviting us to write with colour as a starting point. I have been dreading this prompt. I knew that it was coming, that it was relatively early in the 30 days of Writing Your Grief.  And even though I didn’t remember the detail of the prompt, […]

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My Grief Mentor

April 26, 2024 No Comments

Megan Devine Writing Your Grief Prompt: We all need a mentor. Especially inside this wholly disorienting grief, inside a culture that cannot and does not understand. We each need a guiding star, an example to live into. 18th September 2019 (my mum’s 80th birthday) This is my third crack at this writing prompt. I have […]

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