The Shape of Her in Her
October 21, 2025 No CommentsPhotos my own from this week by Lac Léman/Lake Geneva 27 February 2022 One of my favourite writing prompts in Megan Devine’s 30-day Writing Your Grief programme comes on Day 28. So close to the end, when much excavation of one’s ever-changing emotions, thoughts, feelings and sensations has already gone on. The prompt starts with […]
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October 21, 2025 No CommentsPhotos by me this weekend – the exact spot I was with Edward. I have one with him grinning widely. I cannot find it. For now. But I will. 20 February 2022 Sometimes when I come to reflect on what to write about each week, I just know. I know – yes – THIS is […]
Read MoreCreating the Community I Crave
October 21, 2025 1 Comment13 February 2022 Photo of Gordon, Michelle & me at Soaring Spirits International’s Camp Widow, Toronto, November 2018 Back in the early days of widowing, as I heard the likes of Megan Devine talk about the importance of community, my reaction was something along the lines of “Hrrrmph”. I didn’t get it. I didn’t quite […]
Read MoreThrowing out decades of memories
October 21, 2025 8 CommentsMain image by Susan Q Yin on Unsplash 6 February 2022 Our house has long needed a lick of paint, new staining and varnish on wooden floors and stairs, mouldy patches on bathroom ceilings scraped off and refreshed with white paint, new lights/lighting, new curtains sewn so that they match better with whatever is around… […]
Read MoreChoosing Love
October 21, 2025 1 CommentMain picture by Mohamed Nohassi on Unsplash 30 January 2022 January’s Monthly Prompt from Megan Devine & Refuge in Grief for Grieflings who have been through her 30-day Writing your Grief Programme https://refugeingrief.com/writing-your-grief/ “For decades, my parents have said they wouldn’t get new dogs or cats when the ones they had died. Their last dog […]
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October 21, 2025 3 CommentsPhotos our own, taken over the years. Main photo with baby Ben, (2000). I have so few photos of us just sitting in bed, when it happened so often. Other photos taken by the kids or friends over the years. I treasure these photos. 22 January 2022 I have many terrible dreams. Night-time dreams, I […]
Read More2022 Is The Year Of….Lovely Work
October 21, 2025 4 CommentsImage by Jen Theodore on Unsplash We are far enough into January now to no longer be seeing quite so many stories of New Year’s Resolutions. What a relief. I can better tolerate stories of New Year’s Intentions – which seem to be more flexible, more humane. Intentions seem to offer more malleability, more wiggle […]
Read More“Go Get Yourself A Bigger Problem”
October 21, 2025 1 CommentPhotos by Jane del Pozo – at La Maison de Tara and at Ed’s home (Oct & Dec 2015) 9 January 2022 Back in the early 1990s, I worked for a couple of years post-Masters, in a small consulting firm of organisational psychologists in Cambridge. One of my colleagues – let’s call her Terri – […]
Read MoreOne of the Best Things
October 21, 2025 No CommentsPhotos my own taken these past days 3 January 2022 So Christmas and New Year have been okay. Better than okay. Moments that were really hard, of course; but more moments that have been really enjoyable. Ben and Megan came back from the Netherlands where they study, and stayed largely at home while they were […]
Read MoreToday I have lived 20,000 days
October 21, 2025 No CommentsMain image by Debby Hudson on Unsplash 28 December 2021 I know, notice, or choose to find out, the weirdest things about dates and days. I love number patterns. I love that my birthday is 270367 and Mike’s is 270763. Same digits. A numerologist’s dream. Or so I choose to believe. Just recently, we have […]
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