Three-Way Pact
April 27, 2024 No CommentsImage by Marek Piwnicki on Unsplash 23 July 2021 What does someone, who wants to believe in the spirit world, and believe that we are souls having a human experience, do, when she has a “meh” experience with someone claiming to connect with spirits of loved ones who have died? She finds another spirit whisperer. […]
Read MoreYet Another Secondary Loss
April 27, 2024 No CommentsMain image by Patty Brito on Unsplash 17 July 2021 I have had another big secondary loss. Secondary losses are the endless losses that pile on following the primary loss(es) – (i.e., death). Secondary losses relate to needing to move house, finance changes, slight or major shifts in friends’ dealings with you, minor or dramatic […]
Read MoreNoticing and Shifting Patterns of Living with Loss(es)
April 27, 2024 No CommentsMain image by Pawel Czerwinski on Unsplash 13 July 2021 In the last few years, I have come across the field of “Human Systems Dynamics” (HSD), which offers ways of thinking and tools for exploring complex human systems. I learn about it mostly for professional reasons, but since my professional and personal interests are so […]
Read MoreSunrise over Chamonix after running through the night
April 27, 2024 No CommentsPhotos my own, taken in Chamonix, France Originally written on 7 June 2021 Early in June this year, I was invited to write piece for “Like the Wind” magazine, founded by my friends Julie & Simon Freeman. Her “ask” was to write something running-related in.connection with the Sun. They wanted to have a series of […]
Read MoreCommemobrating
April 27, 2024 1 CommentPhotos my own 6 July 2021 I survived last week.I survived 30 June and 1 July.I survived the two year “deathiversary” of Julia’s death. Forever split across a date line, two days of the week, two dates, two months, even two quarters.Because from when I “know” she took her life, to when she was “officially” […]
Read MoreWhen “ex” means alive
April 27, 2024 No CommentsPhoto my own. Our wedding rings turned into this necklace by jeweller Heather McDermott on the Isle of Skye 2 July 2021 Something I noodle over from time to time, is the weirdness of the word “ex-“ when prefixed to another word. Like “ex-boyfriend” or “ex-lover” or “ex-wife”. The “ex-“ invariably means “alive”, and not […]
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