Widowing Empty Nests

The Shape of You in Me

February 18, 2020 No Comments

10th October 2019 Megan Devine Writing Prompt inviting us to explore the theme of how I am different because you were part of my life. The invisible causes changes in the visibleThe visible gives evidence of the invisibleHistory influences the present and the futureYour presence in my life carries onWith me, within me, through meHow […]

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Baby Blue Shoes

February 18, 2020 1 Comment

8th October 2019 Megan Devine Writing Prompt inviting us to pick an “ordinary” item and begin writing, “I remember”. I remember your first pair of shoes. Real shoes for walking. Tried on in a proper shoe shop. Designed to support your baby feet while you learned to walk on two legs not four, and to […]

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Write & Wrong

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7 October 2019 Megan Devine inviting us to respond to John O’Donohue’s poem “For Grief” Write & Wrong: There’s Nothing Quite Like a bit of Black and White Thinking Megan Devine is quite right. Sometimes John O’Donohue writes right, and sometimes he writes wrong. Plain wrong. Irritatingly. Infuriatingly wrong. What is he on? To write […]

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The Grief See-Saw Roundabout

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6 October 2019 Writing Prompt from Megan Devine: What’s it like to experience that deep kind of connection or love, and then shift back again into pain? I have in my mind’s eye one of those playground attractionsA blend of a see-saw and a roundaboutThey actually do existI have been on at least one – […]

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How Would You Love Me In This, Julia?

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3rd October 2019 Megan Devine Writing Your Grief prompt inviting us to borrow love; to see ourselves through the eyes of the one we have lost, and imagine how they would tend to us in our pain. How would you love me in this, Julia? If I imagine you speaking, if I imagine you loving […]

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And Then What Happened?

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2 October 2019 Megan Devine Prompt from Writing Your Grief Course inviting us to imagine what happens at the moment of death, and to speak in the voice of the person we lost. We had a poem, “The Wild Iris” by American Poet Louise Gluck as a starting point, from which I chose a starting […]

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Baby Doll

February 18, 2020 2 Comments

1st October 2019 Hastily typed-up notes on awakening this morning Waking suddenly just now at 5h18 after another shockingly interrupted and bad night’s sleep. In my dream I was in a bus and a baby-ish version of Julia was lying down next to me. She had taken her life and so was dead but she […]

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More Remembering and Forgetting

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1st October 2019 Way too-close for comfort image courtesy of Sarah Treanor @ streanor.com Megan Devine WYG prompt using this passage from Cormac McCarthy’s “The Road” as a jumping off point: “Just remember that the things you put into your head are there forever,” he said. “You might want to think about that.”“You forget some […]

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Remembering – and Forgetting – Dates

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Image courtesy of Sarah Treanor @ streanor.com Megan Devine Prompt from WYG course asking us to reflect on the experience of first noticing when we are not counting every single day since our person died…. 30 September 2019 As I type down the date just now, it screams back at me. SCREAMS! 30th of the […]

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Musical Moments

February 18, 2020 No Comments

29 September 2019 A contribution to Soaring Spirits Widow’s Voice Blog – 1 October 2019 I am a new guest writer here on Soaring Spirits. I do realise that it’s a site for Widowed people. I am widowed. My husband Mike died of pancreatic cancer on 8th April 2017. He was 53. It feels like […]

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