Widowing Empty Nests

Parallels

October 21, 2020 2 Comments

Photo by Jonathan Pendleton on Unsplash 7th June 2020 Like just about everyone with a heart on the planet, I have been saddened, distraught and moved to tears many times these past couple of weeks as the upwelling of grief and anger in the US (and the UK, and France, to name just a couple of other places), […]

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Don’t Rush Me

October 21, 2020 1 Comment

It’s not just me – it’s you too 31 May 2020“One of the big things I talk about in the grief world is how other people want to rush grief. They want the old you back, they want things to go back to “normal,” they’ve grown impatient with the way grief lives in you. All […]

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Empty

October 21, 2020 3 Comments

Photo by Sarah Treanor (streanor.com) 23 May 2020 Empty. I am empty. I feel empty. Which one is it? Just empty. Running on Empty? No. Not even. A year ago I did a semi-marathon and it was at the end of one of the hardest weeks in my life (and I have had a shit […]

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New Love in the Time of COVID-19

October 21, 2020 1 Comment

Main picture courtesy of street artist Ruben Rojas, in Los Angeles 17 May 2020 How does a new relationship, even one that truly feels right, profound, rich, loving… how does it survive, how can it survive, in the time of COVID-19?  How can Zoom sessions, WhatsApp calls and texts, photos, and even the occasional letter, […]

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Multiple Versions of Mother’s Day

October 21, 2020 No Comments

10th May 2020 Today is Mother’s Day in North America. And, closer to home, in Switzerland too. The day during which, in former times, people congratulate mothers on being mothers. People bring their mums flowers, make them a meal, take them out for a meal. Or just call them and perhaps send them a card. […]

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Threadbare

October 21, 2020 1 Comment

Main Photo by Sharon McCutcheon on Unsplash 3 May 2020 I am in a hard place. A fragile space. Hard and fragile. That sounds like “brittle”. That works too. The six weeks of “hard and fast and furious dates” between 27th March and 2nd May are finally over, culminating in Ben’s 21st birthday yesterday. I so wish he’d […]

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Bittersweet

October 21, 2020 No Comments

Photo by Bannon Morrissy on Unsplash 24 April 2020 More stories of dates. And Dates. Sometimes I count a year as 52 weeks. Sometimes I count a year as 365 days. Or 366 days as the case may be. Sometimes I remember the day something happened. Sometimes the date is more important. And sometimes the Date. It’s all […]

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Same and Different – with a difference

October 21, 2020 No Comments

Featured Photo by Sarah Treanor at streanor.com Writing started on 23rd March 2020, and finished on 8th April. Then finally posted on 23rd April. I have wanted to apply the “Same & Different” tool from Human Systems Dynamics for a while on a “sticky issue”. https://www.hsdinstitute.org/assets/documents/5.1.1.13-same-and-different.pdf But which sticky issue? I have so many: The […]

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Messages From Mike

October 21, 2020 2 Comments

19 April 2020 There seems to come a time in life for those of us who do not grow up with formal religion – and perhaps it’s triggered by loss and hardship, perhaps by age – where we search for meaning in losses and in life, and messages or clues that there might be something […]

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Till Death Do Us Part

October 21, 2020 No Comments

Featured Image “Till Death Do Us Part” by Damien Hirst 13 April 2020 On this day, 13th April, twenty-four years ago, in 1996, it was snowing lightly up in Grasmere, in the English Lake District. The kind of snow that melted as it touched the ground, but that looked ever so pretty as it was […]

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