Widowing Empty Nests

The willingness to be changed by another

December 2, 2021 1 Comment

Image by Eric Muhr on Unsplash 18 September 2021 (my mum’s 82nd birthday. And what would have been her twin, Janet’s, my aunt’s, 82nd birthday too) Many years ago, my brilliant childhood bestie, Nathalie, said of Influencing (in organisations), “To influence you must be willing to be influenced by the other”. I don’t remember what […]

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9/11 Memories, Appreciation and Honouring

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11 September 2021 Main photo by Jesper Blijdestein on Unsplash 9/11. Nine-Eleven trips off the tongue. It means September 11th 2001. Even to Brits, who would otherwise say 11th of September (and write 11/9), there’s no mistaking what 9/11 means. Anyone over a certain age remembers what they were doing on 11th September 2001. Remembers […]

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ABBA Revival

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4 September 2021 Image by Andrew Ebrahim on Unsplash When I landed back at Geneva airport this week, after a few days of business travel in Sweden (my first business travel in over 18 months), I headed over to the luggage collection belts. While waiting for my luggage to come through, I skimmed the BBC […]

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This Life. THIS One

December 2, 2021 2 Comments

Lac de Lamoura, French Jura. Photo my own, taken yesterday, 28 August 2021 29 August 2021 I have been doing some reading, learning and re-working on Narrative – aka the story/stories I/we tell – whether to ourselves or to others. Narratives are potentially powerful vehicles for life, living, how we show up in the world, […]

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Just how do we ever do this?

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Image courtesy of Sarah Treanor (www.streanor.com) 22 August 2021 This is my 104th piece of writing for Soaring Spirits International, which means I have been writing here for exactly 2 years. A piece a week.  And sometimes I write more frequently on my own personal blogsite. I had been widowed for over two years, and […]

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I am beginning to see what you’ve lost

December 2, 2021 2 Comments

17 August 2021 All photos my own – French, Spanish, Andorran Pyrenees I am just back from three weeks holidays spent with Medjool. It’s been lovely. Refreshing. Renewing. Most of the time we were walking in the Pyrenees, east to west, heading from the Mediterranean sea towards the Atlantic ocean. We walked for about 12 […]

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Three-Way Pact

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Image by Marek Piwnicki on Unsplash 23 July 2021 What does someone, who wants to believe in the spirit world, and believe that we are souls having a human experience, do, when she has a “meh” experience with someone claiming to connect with spirits of loved ones who have died? She finds another spirit whisperer. […]

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Yet Another Secondary Loss

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Main image by Patty Brito on Unsplash 17 July 2021 I have had another big secondary loss. Secondary losses are the endless losses that pile on following the primary loss(es) – (i.e., death). Secondary losses relate to needing to move house, finance changes, slight or major shifts in friends’ dealings with you, minor or dramatic […]

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Noticing and Shifting Patterns of Living with Loss(es)

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Main image by Pawel Czerwinski on Unsplash 13 July 2021 In the last few years, I have come across the field of “Human Systems Dynamics” (HSD), which offers ways of thinking and tools for exploring complex human systems. I learn about it mostly for professional reasons, but since my professional and personal interests are so […]

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Sunrise over Chamonix after running through the night

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Photos my own, taken in Chamonix, France Originally written on 7 June 2021 Early in June this year, I was invited to write piece for “Like the Wind” magazine, founded by my friends Julie & Simon Freeman. Her “ask” was to write something running-related in.connection with the Sun. They wanted to have a series of […]

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