Widowing Empty Nests

Double Trouble

June 25, 2021 1 Comment

All photos our own 13th April 2021 13th April. One of those dates that – I assume – will always be lodged in my mind, in my heart, in my body, in my soul. Today is 25 years to the day since Mike and I got married, on a cold, grey day in Grasmere, Cumbria. […]

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Some Softer Dates

June 25, 2021 No Comments

5 April 2021 Main photo by Sarah Treanor on streanor.comAll other photos my own It’s been a good week. Surprisingly good, for the time of year. A slew of special events and treats. Lots of variety – much more than in recent COVID-times – including a flight and a visit to another country! What’s not […]

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Ma partenaire est veuve : quels impacts sur notre relation ?

June 25, 2021 3 Comments

Publié le 4 avril 2021, écrit le 26 mars 2021 Crédit photo: Sarah Treanor www.streanor.com, amie chère et veuve elle aussi Bonjour. Mon prénom est Neil, alias « Medjool ». Depuis juin 2019, j’ai l’immense chance d’être entré dans la vie et le cœur d’Emma, qui tient ce blogpost. Emma a perdu son mari, Mike, voici 4 […]

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My partner is widowed: so what does that mean for our relationship?

June 25, 2021 7 Comments

Posted on 2nd April 2021, written on 26th March 2021 Image by Sarah Treanor, fellow widbud, on www.streanor.com My name is Neil, aka “Medjool”. As of June 2019, I have been fortunate enough to have entered the life and heart of Emma, who keeps this blogsite. Emma lost her husband, Mike, almost 4 years ago. […]

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Uncharted Territory

June 25, 2021 No Comments

28 March 2021 All photos my own, taken 27 & 28 March 2021 Yesterday I had my 54th birthday. An age Mike never made. He made 53 and 8 ½ months-ish. I was aware, to the date, 8th December 2020, when I became the age, to the actual day, that he died. Every day since […]

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Breaking Bad

June 25, 2021 4 Comments

Main Image by Denis Oliveira on Unsplash 22 March 2021 Anyone who reads these blogposts and/or asks me how I am doing and waits for the pause while I run my eyes over their face, my ears over their voice, my brain’s interpretation system over their written words to assess for “checking in” or “real […]

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Crumpling Face Like No Other

June 25, 2021 1 Comment

Images of Geraldine Chaplin from “The Crown” taken by myself 14 March 2021 I continue to watch “The Crown”, at the rate of one or two episodes a week. I started in January and perhaps I will have finished all four series by the end of April if curfews would kindly stay in place. Every […]

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Lessons in Love – Part One

June 25, 2021 No Comments

Main image on Unsplash by Engin Akyurt 8 March 2021 I have a daily gratitude writing practice that started at the beginning of 2020. Megan had given me a gratitude diary for Christmas in which it was suggested you write five things that you had to look forward to that day, then one thing at […]

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Why her? Why him? Why now?

June 25, 2021 No Comments

Main image by Greg Rakozy on Unsplash 1st March 2021 Medjool has a precious childhood friend – let’s call him Yves – who is still very much a presence in his life today. To say that Yves is spiritually aware, spiritually curious, even spiritually provocative, would be an understatement. I am not privy to much […]

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Hard Beliefs to Swallow

June 25, 2021 3 Comments

Main image from me.me 23 February 2021 One of the myriad books that’s been on my list forever is Gary Zukav’s 1989 book “The Seat of the Soul”. It’s been recommended to me by many people over the years, not least Oprah and Maya Angelou, as well as my “Grief Therapist” Tom Zuba. It finally […]

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