A Run of Good Luck?

By Emma Pearson

May 25, 2024

Main image by Amy Reed on Unsplash

6 November 2021

I have been wanting to write something about numbers, number patterns, and time, for a while. And specifically that I couldn’t help but notice, some three or four weeks ago, that I hadn’t had another “significant loss” for a while.

I feel blessed.

No new, massive, significant, life-altering loss in over two years. When the pattern had been…

Death and Loss One…. September 2015

Then, just 4 months after that

Death and Loss Two… January 2016

Then, just 15 months after that

Death and Loss Three… April 2017 (of course, those were not exactly 15 months of carefree time – there were just 9 months between my youngest brother dying and Mike’s diagnosis – hardly time to absorb anything much)

Then, 26 months after that

Death and Loss Four… June 2019 (and none of that was relaxed, easy time, for obvious reasons).

Which is now more than 26 months ago. It feels like respite, of a kind.

It is actually more than 28 months since I have had a death in my immediate family.

Which of course is getting smaller and smaller. So there should be fewer deaths. Dammit.

Except for the fact that we are all getting older, so I know there will be more.


And yet, yes, I truly feel blessed. No new, life-altering-to-me deaths in 28 months.

I am not even being cynical. I am truly grateful.

I am grateful that I still (STILL!) have both of my parents.

That I still have my three remaining siblings.

That I still have my two surviving older children.

That my besties are still all alive. And mostly in good health.

Yes – there have been other deaths, of people I know and love and care about.

Medjool’s mum being the primary one.

Don’s father being another.

I am a few circles out from the maelstrom that those deaths have generated.

It’s so much easier.

Such a different experience.

And yet – I try to remember what it’s like. Being in the centre of that maelstrom those first weeks, months, years.

Sometimes I can remember. Sometimes I cannot. Grief amnesia is a good thing. True salve.

I notice the slight loosening of the tumultuous tsunami of death waves.

Which does not mean that all is fixed, cured, easy.

Far from it.

It just means I am slightly less anxious.

Sleeping a little better at night.

I haven’t had to compose a new obituary, the words of which don’t make any sense at all. Which cannot make sense. There’s never any sense.

I am breathing a little more easily.

Despite the ongoing sadness and grief.

Which permeates my life, but which is not my life.

I will take this respite, gladly, for as long as it might last.

With gratitude.

With some deeper breathing.

With slightly lower anxiety.

With slightly greater peace.

And hope upon hope, in that Magical Thinking kind of way that visits people who are still living when loved ones have died, that perhaps I might be treated more kindly by the universe for a while.

I believe in hope. Whatever Margaret Wheatley says.

It is my hope that I don’t have another loss in my close entourage for a long long time to come.

And I know it’s not going to be that way. How can it be?

And so, I will just enjoy this moment.

Enjoy my temporary reprieve.

My run of good luck.

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3 thoughts on “A Run of Good Luck?

  1. Thanks Emma
    In other times one would say “Well deserved”
    I always remember you as that amazing, sparkling, positive lady I met maybe 15 years ago?
    Im convinced that thanks to your incredible personality and your will to live , you are the person you are today

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